I had an interesting week so far.
For starters my oldest son has decided to take off his listening ears. secondly I live near Boston now and have grown to love my surrounding area very much, don't worry I am still southern at heart.
Either way, with a growing frustration of Our Country's oblivious Americans and a boy who wants to push every button imaginable you could say I have about had it up to here. (imagine me standing on a ladder 10 feet tall + my 5'4 and 3/4 + how ever far my hand reaches above my head goes)
Until a very dear friend and I Ran for Boston today. It felt so good to exert energy and emotion that had been stockpiling in my, oh so many windows open brain!!!
Please know I lean on our Lord Jesus every day. He gives me strength to deal with my child, at times children...dog included. He opens my eyes when I am closing them off. He is my Peace!!
As I showered tonight my legs started to hurt and I wanted to say something...ok I wanted to complain. (I have these moments a few times a month) I AGAIN reminded myself that I am married to a man who has even more pain then I everyday from his waste down, I am friends with 2 of his close friends who no longer have a leg or both due to their courageous acts, and now men and woman who didn't choose to give their life or extremities for this country no longer have limbs to complain about.
It also hit me that as much as my oldest son wants to push my buttons everyday and gets my nerves irritated. I would rather have a silly little man running around my house to get after rather then cry over now missing him.
This blog was more to get some emotion out. I am exhausted with what is going on around me. I am a naturally born fixer perfectionist type. I am realistic though, knowing at times there is a grey area in life and not everything has THE answer.
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Wives and Moms stick together
Since becoming a Wife and Mother happened so young for me I made a decision to be my best at both. I am a perfectionist at heart, thanks mom. I strive everyday to teach my kids about health, hygiene, proper communication, etiquette, treating others with respect, and of course educational things that schools are no longer teaching. I also make sure my husband is as comfortable as I can possible help make him.
I had someone tell me yesterday. "A way to really hurt a man is to target or tell him how to do his job at supporting his family and pointing out his failures in the bedroom. The way to really hurt a woman is to tell her about her job as a wife and mother".
This is SO true!!
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Lets all get the rules straight:
1. All children are different. Even the children you birth will not be even remotely similar!
2. Husbands didn't marry their mommies. (please understand all males and females marry someone who has similar aspects of their parents, but that doesn't mean they match them perfectly)
Recently I have been at the end of someone telling me about the man I married and how my children could possibly end up. This information I already knew, and also informed me, basically, not to ruin certain parts of our days by things I decided to do for MY family. This did not go over well and is still pondered on my mind daily on why it was necessary.
I felt judged on how I was doing MY job. I wanted to scream and finally broke down and cried yesterday. I remind myself this person has never been in my home and doesn't see what I do on a daily basis. They also weren't in premarital counseling and don't know what my husband and I discussed.
I have had friends talk to me about other women telling them how to care for their children. When they should be putting them to bed, how and when to feed them, and how often to change their diapers. Come on ladies...... REALLY?!?!?!
I want to say stop and think before you speak. Especially when you are talking to another woman about what they do in their household.
I understand no one is perfect and we may fail at this more often then not, but hey lets give it a good try......deal?!?!
Some of you may be thinking: What about advice? or a suggestion?.... Is it needed or wanted?? did they pose a need for it to begin with??
I look at it like this. When wives and mothers get together we all talk. Talk about what we are going through with our children and husbands. We obviously are listening to the other ladies and hearing what they are doing....isn't that enough? This could also open the door for you to make a suggestion like.... If you tried it this way you may get a better result with your children or husband?
This would help us stick together rather then tear each other down.
Of course for those Christians reading. God calls us to always bring each other up. I remind myself this daily. Again we are not perfect and fall short. But it is the trying that keeps us on our toes and reminds us daily to be better and not become of the world and those around us.
Have you have been judged by someone or told how to do your Wife and Mother job??
Remember you are always doing your best. These jobs did not come with a job description.
I had someone tell me yesterday. "A way to really hurt a man is to target or tell him how to do his job at supporting his family and pointing out his failures in the bedroom. The way to really hurt a woman is to tell her about her job as a wife and mother".
This is SO true!!
.
Lets all get the rules straight:
1. All children are different. Even the children you birth will not be even remotely similar!
2. Husbands didn't marry their mommies. (please understand all males and females marry someone who has similar aspects of their parents, but that doesn't mean they match them perfectly)
Recently I have been at the end of someone telling me about the man I married and how my children could possibly end up. This information I already knew, and also informed me, basically, not to ruin certain parts of our days by things I decided to do for MY family. This did not go over well and is still pondered on my mind daily on why it was necessary.
I felt judged on how I was doing MY job. I wanted to scream and finally broke down and cried yesterday. I remind myself this person has never been in my home and doesn't see what I do on a daily basis. They also weren't in premarital counseling and don't know what my husband and I discussed.
I have had friends talk to me about other women telling them how to care for their children. When they should be putting them to bed, how and when to feed them, and how often to change their diapers. Come on ladies...... REALLY?!?!?!
I want to say stop and think before you speak. Especially when you are talking to another woman about what they do in their household.
I understand no one is perfect and we may fail at this more often then not, but hey lets give it a good try......deal?!?!
Some of you may be thinking: What about advice? or a suggestion?.... Is it needed or wanted?? did they pose a need for it to begin with??
I look at it like this. When wives and mothers get together we all talk. Talk about what we are going through with our children and husbands. We obviously are listening to the other ladies and hearing what they are doing....isn't that enough? This could also open the door for you to make a suggestion like.... If you tried it this way you may get a better result with your children or husband?
This would help us stick together rather then tear each other down.
Of course for those Christians reading. God calls us to always bring each other up. I remind myself this daily. Again we are not perfect and fall short. But it is the trying that keeps us on our toes and reminds us daily to be better and not become of the world and those around us.
Have you have been judged by someone or told how to do your Wife and Mother job??
Remember you are always doing your best. These jobs did not come with a job description.
Monday, April 1, 2013
Happy Monday and April Fools Day!!!
Mondays are so easy. I just felt like a butterfly floating in the wind. A child running in a field of flowers carelessly. It was the perfect day!............and that was the worst April Fools Joke EVER!!!
Todays blog will be covering a wide variety of
Alright today was pretty great, up until the end where my children decided to run into a parking lot without care, Over and Over and Over again. YES of course I got after them, but I am their mother. What comes out of my mouth sounds like the mom from Charlie Brown to them. Same thing happened when I asked them to pick up their rooms. I am at a loss with that situation.
Any thoughts or ideas on how to help kids clean and finish before I start growing grey hairs or getting saggy body parts?? (that was so hard not to say boobies....sorry said it anyways)
On a Brighter note it is also Opening DAY and come to just find out our team, The Angels, won their first game. Whoop Whoop!!
Who is your favorite MLB team??
I am closing up shop tonight. I am shocked I was able to type this much, my eyelids are being held open with my eyelash curler!!!
Tomorrow is another day with different challenges. We can do this ladies!!! All of it that is!!!
Sleep well and drink coffee in the AM!!!
Todays blog will be covering a wide variety of
Alright today was pretty great, up until the end where my children decided to run into a parking lot without care, Over and Over and Over again. YES of course I got after them, but I am their mother. What comes out of my mouth sounds like the mom from Charlie Brown to them. Same thing happened when I asked them to pick up their rooms. I am at a loss with that situation.
Any thoughts or ideas on how to help kids clean and finish before I start growing grey hairs or getting saggy body parts?? (that was so hard not to say boobies....sorry said it anyways)
On a Brighter note it is also Opening DAY and come to just find out our team, The Angels, won their first game. Whoop Whoop!!
Who is your favorite MLB team??
I am closing up shop tonight. I am shocked I was able to type this much, my eyelids are being held open with my eyelash curler!!!
Tomorrow is another day with different challenges. We can do this ladies!!! All of it that is!!!
Sleep well and drink coffee in the AM!!!
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